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  Article by Irina Baechle, LCSW. Full article can be found at https://psychcentral.com/blog/lessons-from-a-couples-therapist-conflict-avoidance-can-destroy-your-marriage/ Conflict avoidance is one of the biggest topics that keep coming in couples counseling sessions. Holding off conflicts happens when one partner avoids conflicts in order to protect the relationship against another escalation. Sometimes withdrawing or distancing yourself in order to avoid … Read more

  Article by Mateo Sol. Full article can be found at https://truththeory.com/2017/08/27/8-types-internal-conflict-find-peace-mind/ Your mind and heart feel like they’re split in two. You want to do something, but another part of you is screaming “NO WAY!” You believe in something, but you just cannot condone an action that belief teaches. You feel like something is … Read more

  Article by Carina Wolff. Full article can be found at https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-resolve-conflict-faster-according-to-experts-11461113 In a perfect world, we would all get along beautifully — no fighting, no misunderstandings, and no awkward tension. Unfortunately, with so many different personalities and opinions, this reality isn’t very likely, but we can work to make communication a little smoother. There … Read more

  Article by Elizabeth Scott, MS. Full article can be found at https://www.verywellmind.com/conflict-resolution-mistakes-to-avoid-3144982 Conventional wisdom (and research) says that good communication can improve relationships, increasing intimacy, trust, and support. The converse is also true: poor communication can weaken bonds, creating stress, mistrust and even contempt! Because conflict is virtually inevitable in relationships (and not necessarily … Read more

  Article by Diane Musho Hamilton. Full article can be found at https://hbr.org/2015/12/calming-your-brain-during-conflict Conflict wreaks havoc on our brains. We are groomed by evolution to protect ourselves whenever we sense a threat. In our modern context, we don’t fight like a badger with a coyote, or run away like a rabbit from a fox. But … Read more

  Full article can be found at https://www.powerofpositivity.com/complaining-changes-brain-anxious-depressed-research/ “Thought changes structure … I saw people rewire their brains with their thoughts, to cure previously incurable obsessions and trauma.” ~ Norman Doidge, Canadian-born psychiatrist and author of The Brain That Changes Itself Neuroplasticity: The Good and The Bad The human brain is remarkably malleable. It can … Read more

  Article by E. Grant MacDonald, Director Non-Profit Sector Leadership Program – exerts only. Full article can be found at http://www.orgwise.ca/sites/osi.ocasi.org.stage/files/resources/Managing%20Board%20Conflict.pdf The Four Arenas of Board Conflict For boards of directors of community organizations, there are typically four arenas in which conflict manifests itself. Conflict among board members Conflict on the board itself arises as … Read more

  Article originally posted at https://hbr.org/2018/10/stop-complaining-about-your-colleagues-behind-their-backs and written by Deborah Grayson Riegel. In my coaching work with leaders and teams, I often ask my clients whether they engage in workplace gossip. More often than not, they respond, “of course not!” with a look on their faces that indicates that they are insulted to have been … Read more

  Article originally posted at https://hbr.org/2019/01/4-things-to-do-before-a-tough-conversation and written by Joseph Grenny. I was in denial for about a year and a half before I admitted that I needed to fire Randy. His work performance had made the conclusion inescapable for years, but he was so darned nice and likeable that I gave him the benefit … Read more

  Article originally posted at https://hbr.org/2018/10/working-with-people-who-arent-self-aware and written by Tasha Eurich. Even though self-awareness — knowing who we are and how we’re seen — is important for job performance, career success, and leadership effectiveness, it’s in remarkably short supply in today’s workplace. In our nearly five-year research program on the subject, we’ve discovered that although … Read more